definition and meaning
Safeword is a pre-negotiated word or signal that any participant in a sexual or BDSM scene can use to immediately pause or stop the activity. Because BDSM often involves scenarios where "no" or "stop" might be part of the roleplay (resistance play, consensual non-consent), a safeword provides an unambiguous, out-of-character signal that cuts through the scene and communicates genuine distress or a need to halt.
The traffic light system is the most widely used framework: "green" means everything's good, "yellow" means slow down or check in, and "red" means stop immediately. Many participants also establish non-verbal safewords (dropping a held object, tapping out, or specific hand signals) for situations where speech isn't possible. When a safeword is called, all activity stops without question, without negotiation, and without judgment. Ignoring a safeword is considered one of the most serious violations in ethics, it's the mechanism that keeps active and meaningful during intense play.
For informational purposes only. Nothing on this site constitutes legal, financial, medical, or other professional advice. Information about tools, platforms, and laws changes frequently. Verify before acting on anything here, and consult a qualified professional for advice on your specific situation.
